So how many emails are you receiving? Hopefully at least two to three a week? If not, maybe it’s time to review your profile.
For example, you could revisit the section of your profile that talks about your interests:
- Do you have a variety of interests listed?
- Do these interests reflect who you are as a person?
- Are they both inside and outside activities (theater, reading, waterskiing, biking)?
You could also review the section where you talk about the requirements of the person and relationship you’re looking for. Are they realistic? Are they clear?
One of the best ways to set your profile apart from others is to write in a “conversational voice” – just as if you are talking to the person reading it. This way it won’t look like you’re just making a list.
For example, instead of saying, “I like to ski, hike, go out to dinner, and read” (this is the “list” version), you could create a story (the “conversational” version).
Here are some examples of stories:
(1) I’m an outdoors kind of gal. I love skiing Mammoth (depending on the mountain, I am a mid-level to expert skier) and look forward to a hot toddy with my special guy afterward in the lodge. Spending an afternoon hiking and picnicking helps me decompress after a long week. However, one thing you should know about me – my comfort in the outdoors is definitely during the daytime. In the evening I like to stay in a hotel with unlimited hot water and breakfast in bed.
(2) I love to cook (Italian food is my specialty) and bake (I’ve been told my cinnamon rolls are divine). If you keep me company while I cook it makes me smile. Offering to do the dishes makes me smile even bigger. And offering to cook (or bring take-out) for me – oh my, well I’ll just have to tell you more about that when I know you better.
(3) Giving back as a volunteer is a high priority in my life. I spent part of last summer building houses in Mexico. I learned how to use a nail gun and hang a door. And visiting the local villages to buy their handmade jewelry and pottery created memories that will last forever.
When you use “conversational voice,” you end up looking more interesting. And when you look more interesting, you’re more likely to attract someone who is also interesting.
Next week I’ll talk about using a conversational voice to talk about the man you want to date.
Continued happy dating,
Dating and Relationship Expert
Goal Setting + Purposeful Dating = Satisfying Relationships