10 worst things you can do on a first date

August 3, 2012

I’m usually focused on telling people how to succeed in their dating life.

Just to shake things up a bit (and get everyone thinking differently) I decided to take the opposite approach this week and offer you the 10 worst things you can do on a first date (things that guarantee you’ll have a bad time):

  1. Decide the person you’re going to meet is your potential husband/wife.
  2. Don’t think ahead of time about what information you’d like to find out about them.
  3. Ask them about their ex-wife/husband, previous relationships, and recent dates.
  4. Tell them about your ex-wife/husband, previous relationships, and recent dates.
  5. Talk the entire time about yourself and don’t ask them “interested” questions about themselves.
  6. Don’t talk at all about yourself so they won’t have an opportunity to get to know you.
  7. Use your cell phone – talking, texting, checking email, etc.
  8. Arrive late.
  9. Dress inappropriately and look ungroomed.
  10. Glance around the room while you or they are talking.

Ahhh… a little dating humor is a good thing, huh?

This list probably shows how very smart you are because you already know these things. 🙂 Did you find any reminders? Did you think of things you could add to the list? Let me know.

~ Christine
Dating and Relationship Expert

Goal Setting + Purposeful Dating = Satisfying Relationships

Hey, hen house! Let the roosters in!

July 13, 2012

This week I’d like to feature a guest blogger… Jane Garee. Jane and I are both part of a mentoring group, and recently I’ve been taking her sales strategy course. Jane brought up this story about men, women and relationships last week, and I told her it just had to be shared on my blog. Thanks, Jane!  ~ Christine

I enjoyed a barbecue recently.  The food was great, the company was good, the conversation was incredibly interesting….until it got completely hijacked by Mad Millie and her Coffee Clatch!

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Hearing from a man’s perspective

June 29, 2012

I held a teleclass last week, and thoroughly enjoyed the lively question and answer part at the end of the call.

I know it can be intimidating to ask questions on a call when you don’t really know who’s listening and when personal subjects like dating and relationship are involved.

In spite of this, quite a few people asked insightful questions. In particular, one person with two intriguing questions also demonstrated something you’ll hear me say a lot: “There are good single men out there!”

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Stopping the romance roller coaster

June 15, 2012

For those of you who don’t know… I’m doing a free call next Thursday (June 21) titled:

Your dating dilemmas solved: How to stop the romance roller coaster and enter the tunnel of love

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Don’t sweat the small stuff

June 8, 2012

My step-daughter-in-law Danielle (she actually feels like a daughter-in-love) is a busy mother of two, always going 1000 miles an hour. So, she’s created great time-saving devices to get through the day.

One involves 4-year-old Evan. When Danielle takes his shirt off, she pulls it over his head (which turns it inside-out). Danielle leaves the shirt inside-out through the washing and drying process, so it’s easy to put the shirt back on Evan the same way and “ta da” it is right-side-out again.

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Being yourself is the best screening process

June 1, 2012

Who are you in a relationship? Are you your authentic self? If you aren’t then who are you?

I’d like to share another relationship secret. Remember… when I do this, it gives you super powers. 🙂 And I hope you’ll always use your super powers for good.

Women (without this super power) change who they are when they’re in a relationship. And the most amazing part is—the more we’re attracted to the man—the more we think we need to change. So, we start out (on our first date) being mostly ourselves (it’s normal to put your best foot forward) and then as we go out more times (and like him even more) we start changing how we act, look, think, etc.

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Repeating myself

May 25, 2012

I received a link today to a fascinating article about mouthwash. Actually not exactly about mouthwash, but about “how many times we need to hear something before we internalize it and DO something about it.”

This article was written with business people in mind (I’ve included the link below) and as I read it I saw how it fits me and my coaching clients.

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“Cinderella Was a Liar”

May 18, 2012

When I found this book in the library, I had no idea how much I would like it. I just knew I liked the title.

Then, I started reading it and discovered the author (Brenda Della Casa) and I are kindred spirits when it comes to dating and relationship advice. We both:

  • Think women are smart.
  • Know women want to be happy.
  • Believe women have been told some inaccurate information about how to date successfully.

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My husband is so confused

May 11, 2012

Last Christmas, my husband purchased the same gift for me that he purchased for his daughter, Bree. Now I’m sure you can all see the potential problems with this – so you’ll probably be surprised to hear we were both quite happy with the gift.

The gift was a beautiful set of makeup brushes and case. His thoughts around the purchase were:

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What online dating taught me about life, dating and, oh yeah, myself

May 4, 2012

This is one of my favorite topics when I speak to groups. You see – I thought I knew myself pretty well. And then I started dating. And was astounded at all the new things I discovered.

I learned the important things I do want. For example, I found out I want someone who:

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