Hearing from a man’s perspective

I held a teleclass last week, and thoroughly enjoyed the lively question and answer part at the end of the call.

I know it can be intimidating to ask questions on a call when you don’t really know who’s listening and when personal subjects like dating and relationship are involved.

In spite of this, quite a few people asked insightful questions. In particular, one person with two intriguing questions also demonstrated something you’ll hear me say a lot: “There are good single men out there!”

His first question was about women who write to him through online dating websites even though they are outside his preferred age range. He asked, “What’s an appropriate way to respond to these women, or is it better to not respond at all?”

He went on to say he does appreciate that they wrote to him. He knows they’re extending themselves for possible rejection (he’s in the same position when he writes to a woman for the first time) and he wanted to treat them courteously even though he would be telling them he isn’t interested in dating them.

My immediate response was to tell him, “I want to take this portion of the recording and put it on my website and make it mandatory listening for women who tell me there aren’t any good guys left!” Because ladies this is truly a good guy. These women writing to him don’t fit the criteria in his profile, but he still wants to ensure his response is respectful and kind.

My answer to his question: “Thank  them (in your very polite way) for writing, and tell them you don’t feel they’re a match.”

I also told him that, in situations like these, I recommend always responding even if it’s a “no thank you” because the other person then knows you got their email (isn’t left wondering) and knows to look for someone who is a better match for them.

What are your feelings on this?

Tune in next week – I’ll be talking about his second question.

Continued happy dating,

~ Christine
Dating and Relationship Expert

Goal Setting + Purposeful Dating = Satisfying Relationships

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