Posts Tagged ‘advice’

Who do you take dating advice from?

April 27, 2012

I seem to have one of those faces that puts people (even strangers) at ease, and because of this I end up in interesting conversations with people at parties, on airplanes, in movie lines, etc.

If my fellow conversationalist is single and finds out I’m a dating and relationship coach, we often have a dialogue similar to the following:

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Dating and money

December 30, 2011

Dear Christine,

I’ve been out to dinner three times with the same man and I really like him. He’s courteous and always insists on paying for everything. I’d like our financial obligations to be fairer, but when I offer to pay he always says no. I’m starting to feel uncomfortable and I don’t want it to color our relationship.

Financially Confused

Dear FC,

What a wonderful gentleman you are dating. His manners certainly get an “A” in my book. I also hear your predicament.

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The men across the table from me (part 2)

December 9, 2011

I’d like to talk a little more about last week’s topic: “How come the same terrible/loser/jerk, etc. men keep showing up on the other side of the table from me?”

I have an additional analogy for this question – something that came out of my personal life.

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The men across the table from me

December 2, 2011

This question comes up often in my coaching:

“How come the same terrible/loser/jerk/unavailable/cheap/broke/overbearing/too young/too old/too quiet/too loud men keep showing up on the other side of the table from me?”

In answer to this question, I often talk about my own discovery in this area. I realized the other person at “each dinner with these men” was me. This discovery prompted me to ask myself, “What about me was attractive to them and what about them was attractive (enough) for me to go out with them?”

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Did you know?

October 28, 2011

I thought it would be fun this week for you to “peek” into the thoughts of “the other team” to learn more about what the opposite sex is thinking.

Advice for women
Did you know you’re in the driver’s seat when it comes to online dating? There are many more men on online dating sites than there are women. (Contrast this with “single” dances, mixers, and socials where the women usually outnumber the men.) So, here is your chance to take advantage of some great odds by using online dating.

Advice for men
Did you know that most women are just as nervous about talking to you the first time as you are about talking to them? Taking the time to learn what to say to put them at ease will help both of you feel more relaxed during your communications. Before launching into your first conversation with her, prepare a list of questions from information you’ve read in her profile. Then you’ll be more confident and able to avoid those awkward silences.

Continued happy dating,

~ Christine
Dating and Relationship Expert

Goal Setting + Purposeful Dating = Satisfying Relationships

First steps in online dating

September 23, 2011

I’ve been running into women who have misgivings about using online dating, so let’s talk a little about good “first steps” in online dating.

I’m guessing you’ve already decided to take the plunge (or you probably wouldn’t have found this blog) – so congratulations!

One of the best ways to make sure you’ll have an enjoyable experience is to trust your instincts. You may find yourself saying, “Instincts, what instincts? I don’t think I have any instincts in this area of my life.”

Perhaps you’re in touch with instincts in other areas of your life, but are thinking you need a little guidance in the dating area?

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Dating advice: Intimacy on the first date?

September 16, 2011

Dear Christine:
I was married for 31 years and am now single. I remember when I was dating before my marriage, men were very respectful of the word “no” whether it was a kiss at the door after a first date or moving into a more intimate relationship. But, now I’m feeling so much pressure from men I have dated to be physical before I am ready. Am I old fashioned and out of step?  

~ Newly Single

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