Posts Tagged ‘dating’

10 worst things you can do on a first date

August 3, 2012

I’m usually focused on telling people how to succeed in their dating life.

Just to shake things up a bit (and get everyone thinking differently) I decided to take the opposite approach this week and offer you the 10 worst things you can do on a first date (things that guarantee you’ll have a bad time):

  1. Decide the person you’re going to meet is your potential husband/wife.
  2. Don’t think ahead of time about what information you’d like to find out about them.
  3. Ask them about their ex-wife/husband, previous relationships, and recent dates.
  4. Tell them about your ex-wife/husband, previous relationships, and recent dates.
  5. Talk the entire time about yourself and don’t ask them “interested” questions about themselves.
  6. Don’t talk at all about yourself so they won’t have an opportunity to get to know you.
  7. Use your cell phone – talking, texting, checking email, etc.
  8. Arrive late.
  9. Dress inappropriately and look ungroomed.
  10. Glance around the room while you or they are talking.

Ahhh… a little dating humor is a good thing, huh?

This list probably shows how very smart you are because you already know these things. 🙂 Did you find any reminders? Did you think of things you could add to the list? Let me know.

~ Christine
Dating and Relationship Expert

Goal Setting + Purposeful Dating = Satisfying Relationships


Being yourself is the best screening process

June 1, 2012

Who are you in a relationship? Are you your authentic self? If you aren’t then who are you?

I’d like to share another relationship secret. Remember… when I do this, it gives you super powers. 🙂 And I hope you’ll always use your super powers for good.

Women (without this super power) change who they are when they’re in a relationship. And the most amazing part is—the more we’re attracted to the man—the more we think we need to change. So, we start out (on our first date) being mostly ourselves (it’s normal to put your best foot forward) and then as we go out more times (and like him even more) we start changing how we act, look, think, etc.


Repeating myself

May 25, 2012

I received a link today to a fascinating article about mouthwash. Actually not exactly about mouthwash, but about “how many times we need to hear something before we internalize it and DO something about it.”

This article was written with business people in mind (I’ve included the link below) and as I read it I saw how it fits me and my coaching clients.


“Cinderella Was a Liar”

May 18, 2012

When I found this book in the library, I had no idea how much I would like it. I just knew I liked the title.

Then, I started reading it and discovered the author (Brenda Della Casa) and I are kindred spirits when it comes to dating and relationship advice. We both:

  • Think women are smart.
  • Know women want to be happy.
  • Believe women have been told some inaccurate information about how to date successfully.


What online dating taught me about life, dating and, oh yeah, myself

May 4, 2012

This is one of my favorite topics when I speak to groups. You see – I thought I knew myself pretty well. And then I started dating. And was astounded at all the new things I discovered.

I learned the important things I do want. For example, I found out I want someone who:


Who do you take dating advice from?

April 27, 2012

I seem to have one of those faces that puts people (even strangers) at ease, and because of this I end up in interesting conversations with people at parties, on airplanes, in movie lines, etc.

If my fellow conversationalist is single and finds out I’m a dating and relationship coach, we often have a dialogue similar to the following:


What are you willing to do?

January 20, 2012

What are you willing to do to feel ready to date? For example, something as simple as getting out of the house can point you in the right direction.

  • You can walk the dog, take a class in something you love doing (or want to learn), join a group (cards, theater, walking, books – is a great resource), visit churches/temples/etc. to see if one “fits you.”
  • Smile at people you see in your travels outside the house. You don’t have to talk to them, just smile. This action alone can make you feel lighter.
  • Visit a few neighborhood restaurants and coffee shops and pick out three where you could meet your future first dates.

What are you willing to do to meet someone you really like?


Dating and money

December 30, 2011

Dear Christine,

I’ve been out to dinner three times with the same man and I really like him. He’s courteous and always insists on paying for everything. I’d like our financial obligations to be fairer, but when I offer to pay he always says no. I’m starting to feel uncomfortable and I don’t want it to color our relationship.

Financially Confused

Dear FC,

What a wonderful gentleman you are dating. His manners certainly get an “A” in my book. I also hear your predicament.


The men across the table from me (part 2)

December 9, 2011

I’d like to talk a little more about last week’s topic: “How come the same terrible/loser/jerk, etc. men keep showing up on the other side of the table from me?”

I have an additional analogy for this question – something that came out of my personal life.


The men across the table from me

December 2, 2011

This question comes up often in my coaching:

“How come the same terrible/loser/jerk/unavailable/cheap/broke/overbearing/too young/too old/too quiet/too loud men keep showing up on the other side of the table from me?”

In answer to this question, I often talk about my own discovery in this area. I realized the other person at “each dinner with these men” was me. This discovery prompted me to ask myself, “What about me was attractive to them and what about them was attractive (enough) for me to go out with them?”