Posts Tagged ‘first dates’

10 worst things you can do on a first date

August 3, 2012

I’m usually focused on telling people how to succeed in their dating life.

Just to shake things up a bit (and get everyone thinking differently) I decided to take the opposite approach this week and offer you the 10 worst things you can do on a first date (things that guarantee you’ll have a bad time):

  1. Decide the person you’re going to meet is your potential husband/wife.
  2. Don’t think ahead of time about what information you’d like to find out about them.
  3. Ask them about their ex-wife/husband, previous relationships, and recent dates.
  4. Tell them about your ex-wife/husband, previous relationships, and recent dates.
  5. Talk the entire time about yourself and don’t ask them “interested” questions about themselves.
  6. Don’t talk at all about yourself so they won’t have an opportunity to get to know you.
  7. Use your cell phone – talking, texting, checking email, etc.
  8. Arrive late.
  9. Dress inappropriately and look ungroomed.
  10. Glance around the room while you or they are talking.

Ahhh… a little dating humor is a good thing, huh?

This list probably shows how very smart you are because you already know these things. 🙂 Did you find any reminders? Did you think of things you could add to the list? Let me know.

~ Christine
Dating and Relationship Expert

Goal Setting + Purposeful Dating = Satisfying Relationships


Have a few questions prepared

November 25, 2011

I’ve mentioned in previous blogs that it’s a good idea to have a few questions prepared to ask when you begin communicating with potential dates. Use these questions during initial emails, phone calls, and dates. Being prepared helps you:

  • Get to know him/her better.
  • Feel confident that you won’t get “stuck” for something to talk about.
  • Feel more relaxed during communications.

To get you started, I’ve listed a few questions I use with clients (and also used when I was dating).


First dates – from a man’s point of view, from a woman’s point of view

November 18, 2011

Because I’m in the relationship business, I hear a lot about those “awful first dates” – from both men and women. Sometimes the complaint is, “The other person did all the talking and didn’t learn anything about me.” Other times I hear, “I had to do all the talking and ask all the questions.”

Learning a few simple techniques can help change these scenarios and ultimately lead to more successful first dates.


SEX: Sensible Execution of the Extras

November 4, 2011

This week’s subject is about SEX – Sensible Execution of the Extras. Holding hands, hugs, first kiss, etc.

Every “first” needs to be treated as very special. There can only be one first and even though we know (or at least hope) that each successive time will be even better, it’s memorable to make each first special. (Now I know this probably isn’t your all time “first.” However, it is your “first” with this new person.)


Dating advice: Intimacy on the first date?

September 16, 2011

Dear Christine:
I was married for 31 years and am now single. I remember when I was dating before my marriage, men were very respectful of the word “no” whether it was a kiss at the door after a first date or moving into a more intimate relationship. But, now I’m feeling so much pressure from men I have dated to be physical before I am ready. Am I old fashioned and out of step?  

~ Newly Single