Posts Tagged ‘making changes’

Repeating myself

May 25, 2012

I received a link today to a fascinating article about mouthwash. Actually not exactly about mouthwash, but about “how many times we need to hear something before we internalize it and DO something about it.”

This article was written with business people in mind (I’ve included the link below) and as I read it I saw how it fits me and my coaching clients.

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How women release stress

April 13, 2012

Last week I talked about how men release stress, so now I’ll give equal time for the women.

Over the last three weeks I’ve had the pleasure of explaining this to four of my male clients. It’s good information for both men and women to understand.

Once again, let’s symbolize a woman’s stress as a full glass of water (remember, I like visuals). She’s completely filled to the brim with her feelings. And the way most women release this stress is to talk about what’s bothering them.

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A U-Haul truck worth of baggage vs. the overhead bin

March 30, 2012

I frequently hear, “I don’t want to date anyone who has baggage.” This could include emotional, children, financial, physical, and/or spiritual. I understand the sentiment behind this request. I just have to say, “That’s impossible.”

For this post I’m going to talk about “emotional baggage.”

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New Year’s resolutions (part 5)

March 23, 2012

Last month I presented a list of six ways to make New Year’s resolutions “stick”.  Today, I’d like to talk about item 6 on this list.

But first, let’s recap the initial five:

  1. Be convinced it will make your life better. This involves determining your starting place, examining your past choices, and deciding where you want to be next.
  2. Be convinced it’s attainable. Adopt new benefits.
  3. Break it into very small goals, and clearly state each goal. These small goals define the steps necessary to reach your ultimate goal.
  4. Be accountable to yourself and at least one other person. Having a confidant to call when you need a “booster shot” of confidence will help you over the rough patches.
  5. Be your own cheerleader, and have at least one other cheerleader. Create a list of rewards to give yourself at each step.

Now – for item 6:

6. Be able to adjust your expectations when necessary.

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New Year’s resolutions (part 4)

February 24, 2012

In my last three posts, I’ve been talking about ways to make New Year’s resolutions “stick”. Today, I’d like to talk about items 4 and 5 on this list.

4. Be accountable to yourself and at least one other person.

5. Be your own cheerleader, and have at least one other cheerleader.

There can be lots of uncertainty, pressure, and anxiety with online dating, so it’s definitely not a time to “go solo”.

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New Year’s resolutions (part 3)

February 17, 2012

In my last two posts, I’ve been talking about six ways to make resolutions “stick”. Today I’d like to talk a little more about the third item on this list:

3. Break the resolution into very small goals, and clearly state each goal.

This process of making small goals will help take the overwhelm out of resolution-keeping.

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New Year’s resolutions (part 2)

February 10, 2012

Last week’s post listed six suggestions for making resolutions “stick”. Today I’d like to talk a little more about the first two items:

1. Be convinced the resolution will make your life better.

To figure this out, use  my GPS formula. Determine your starting place by honestly looking at where you are right now. Ask yourself these questions:

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New Year’s resolutions

February 3, 2012

So, now that we’re into the month of February. . . how are you feeling about your New Year’s resolutions?

Resolutions are another way of creating important boundaries in your life and are something to consider creating throughout the year (not just at the beginning).

Bottom line – when something becomes a big enough problem in your life and you truly want a change, this is the time to make a resolution.

How to create a resolution that sticks? To keep a resolution, you need to:

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