Posts Tagged ‘relationships’

Who do you take dating advice from?

April 27, 2012

I seem to have one of those faces that puts people (even strangers) at ease, and because of this I end up in interesting conversations with people at parties, on airplanes, in movie lines, etc.

If my fellow conversationalist is single and finds out I’m a dating and relationship coach, we often have a dialogue similar to the following:



How women release stress

April 13, 2012

Last week I talked about how men release stress, so now I’ll give equal time for the women.

Over the last three weeks I’ve had the pleasure of explaining this to four of my male clients. It’s good information for both men and women to understand.

Once again, let’s symbolize a woman’s stress as a full glass of water (remember, I like visuals). She’s completely filled to the brim with her feelings. And the way most women release this stress is to talk about what’s bothering them.


Men, women, and competitive sports

April 6, 2012

You’ve probably heard the term “football-baseball-golf widow”, where the “men” are gone for an entire day (or weekend or week) to participate in and/or watch sports.

Some women enjoy the time their partner is gone. These women do something they enjoy doing (or do nothing at all) and often don’t resent this time without him.

Some women don’t like the time their partner spends engaged in sports activities. They feel it takes away from time their partner could be spending with them and/or their family.


Is this relationship right for me?

March 15, 2012

I seem to have one of those faces that puts people (even strangers) at ease, and I’m honored by the interesting and personal thoughts people share with me. A topic that has been coming up a lot lately is:

“How do I know when I’m in a relationship that is right for me?”

Here are a few ways to test it:

Do you like the version of you this relationship brings out?

Is this version easy for you to maintain?

Are you no less happy to see your partner walk in the room than you were at the beginning of your relationship?


More on the subject of holiday traditions

December 23, 2011

Last week I talked about finding other options when you aren’t able to be a part of your “usual holiday tradition.”

This week, let’s talk about the challenges that come up for couples celebrating special occasions (birthdays, holidays, etc.) Because each person comes out of different traditions — different expectations get set for what will and won’t happen around the celebration. (This isn’t about religious differences, although that would be a great discussion for another day.)


Different dictionaries for men and women

October 14, 2011

Many coaching clients tell me what a surprise it is for them to discover that men and women have different “dictionaries” inside themselves.

Imagine the miscommunication that can occur – right from the beginning – if you haven’t discussed each other’s “definitions.”

A different “definition” that came up when my husband and I began dating was around finances.